For colored girls... So glad I'm not colored... or a girl

First of all let me say this is not a bad review of "For Colored Girls" the movie. I actually can appreciate it as a movie... and nothing more. The same way I appreciate Mulan or Dreamgirls or Takers ... Movies that may be real life for some people but for me, entertainment.

It took me a while to actually see the movie, I saw too many reviews ahead of time (which I don't recommend, I always think its best to see a movie or read a book on your own with no previous information) and it filled me with too many conflicting ideas. I had half of the world saying "this is the best movie ever", "Best depiction of Black Women in all different levels of Society" and then the other half of the world saying "This is the worst movie ever", "Makes you think all black men are dogs".I thought neither. I definitely don't think its the best movie I've ever seen but its not the worst...What it did make me realize is that I appreciate the Black women I know.

Women , not girls.

My mother and my aunts in particular remind me that we are not as a whole a group of victims that things just happen to.

One situation from the movie in particular just blew my mind!I won't tell the story but Kimberly Elise's character obviously was not raised by a woman like my aunts and momma. I guarantee you that her man would've either gotten right or died if he ever met Esther Louise, Oretha Lee, Patricia Lee, Bertha May, Tanny or Fletta Marie. Trust.

I have experienced bad relationships, jobs, friendships but I'm still not a victim. I work hard to make a change when some things not right for me, my blackness is not a hindrance or an excuse that I fall back on. It is a part of me but not my everything, it is beautiful but not the only thing beautiful about me.

I ask one thing for those who want to see me no matter what race, nationality or sex ... Remember that movie is about colored girls, not Black Women. In my humble opinion

More than a woman

"When I was a child, I spake as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things ... " 1 Corinthiains 13:11

I am on the eve of turning 28 years old :gasp: and I am still striving to live up to this scripture. At this point in my life I've finally got a clear picture of who I want to be. Now just gotta do it.

Relationships? Over it. Lol. Not that I plan or want to be single for the rest of my life (fingers crossed). But that whole dating just to date thing. Soooooo 2009. I'm at this "unchildish" point where I want every relationship in my life to be CLEARLY defined (subliminal) and to have meaning. I just truly no longer have a desire to play around with fake friends or wannabe boyfriends. No thanx!

Work? Yea Over it! This will be my last job (by God's grace). I know most people are content working to pay their bills but... Yea not this chic. I have every intention of becoming an author that is able to take care of herself and her family through her gift. I understand now that I am not like everyone else and will never be happy just punching someones clock. I am happy for the experiences I have had but this too is coming to an end.

Family? We all we got! When I say family I am not necessarily talking about blood relation. Family to me are those people who have and will be there no matter what. People are so stuck on "blood" that they don't appreciate folk who are there and they don't have to be! In my life more often than not its my friends whom I go to when times are bad, not my 3rd cousin (no offence)

So in conclusion ( I hate when I write that but it seems appropriate). I'm living my life to live again and while I'm here I'm gonna live it to the fullest!

-A

Pointing fingers?

First of all, I sincerely apologize for waiting 7 months :gasps: before writting a new post. I have no excuse, was just extremely lazy.

But the kid is back! owwwww (in my ghetto girl voice)

Now to more serious matters...

I want to dedicate this blog to being Pro Active. Times are rough all around and there are so many people who need help. Many of us point fingers about what our government is NOT doing and who our government is helping but there are very few of us who are actually out there trying to make a difference.

Every time I log onto the net (www.cnn.com and www.nydailynews.com ) there is some new party or group of people dedicated to complaining. Like Dude get a life! Why aren't there any groups popping up to help all the newly unemployed people that can't afford to take care of there families? Instead of complaining about welfare recipients why is no one trying to help those people who are more than willing to work but can't find any jobs?

I've decided to stop being a complainer. I am a part of alot of different groups and organizations and I plan on doing my best to get everybody I work with on board.

You with me?

When Disaster Strikes...

On January 12 Th, 2010 a 7.0 earthquake hit Haiti. It was the strongest earthquake to hit the country in over 200 years. 200,000 people are feared to be dead. Many of whom will never be positively identified. Homes are lost, the government is gone, there are thousands of orphans...

Everyone from the United States to Israeli disaster teams have started to send aid , Movie Stars, Singers, Musicians, Artists, Entrepreneurs, Businessmen, schools ... Haiti is on every ones agenda. But where were all of us before.

Haiti is the poorest country in the Western Hemisphere. Even before the quake there were thousands of homeless throughout the country. Many people lived in homes without running water. Over half of the deaths in the country are attributed to HIV/Aids, tuberculosis, meningitis, malaria and respiratory infections.

Wasn't it already a disaster zone?

What makes something a disaster? When is it worth US stepping in and making a change. Why do we have to wait for total destruction to want to start building again. Renovation is much easier than demolition. Could we have stopped the earthquake from happening? Probably not. Could the country have been better equipped to deal with something of that magnitude. Definitely. Could we have saved some more lives? I think so.

What will you do when disaster strikes?